Next, plan what you want to say. Sometimes I even write down what I need to communicate so I remember what I need to say. Then, when it’s time to talk about it, I ask that I be allowed to finish before he speaks. You’ll be surprised how well this works. He’ll stay open to what you need to say, you’ll be heard, and if you continue throughout the conversation as two people who love each other your relationship will begin to blossom. And don’t start out with, “We need to talk.†That strikes fear into the heart of every man. Instead, ask, “I need your help with something. Do you have time for me to share?†Big difference because men like to help solve problems for the woman they love.